Saturday, December 22, 2012

How to reach happiness

If there is one thing we all have in common it is the desire to feel happy and on the other side of that coin, we all want to avoid suffering. However persistently put into situations that cause suffering.

Their luck "pins" on the people, circumstances and things and then for them to keep all forces. We care for the chance to lose them when things do not seem to work best. Then, when something does happen - delay, termination, transfer - we are sad.

I dock the feeling that define us. Ironically, it does not work only with positive feelings. If you complain or feel disappointed for something for years, then it might seem safe and even comforting to continue to suffer.

In order to stick to what we know, we limit our ability to experience the joy of the moment. The moment does not shine in all its glory when the choke of fear.

When you stop trying to conceive, possess or control the world around you, you give him the freedom to fill you with no power to destroy you. That is the reason why it is so important release: release at the same time opening the door to happiness.

Release the attachment is not an easy task, it is not a decision point. Instead, it's the day-to-day decisions, commitment from moment to moment, which involves changing the way we see and interact with all of you instinctively want to grasp.

The best approach is to start simple, and struggle to get to the women.

Perception without attachment

Accept the moment as it happens. Do not make it in today, this is the moment passed. No Kuyt plans on how to be able to convert into eternity. Just let that moment passes and enjoy it because it will eventually pass. Nothing is permanent. Fighting that reality will only bring you pain.

Believe that it is sad enough. It's true-tomorrow may not look the same as today, no matter how much you try to control it. The connection can be completed. You may have to relocate. With this deal you will be moments when they come. All you need to do now is to appreciate what you have and enjoy it. It is enough ...

Define themselves in terms of fluid. All we continually grow and develop. Define themselves in terms of who can handle the change. Defining ourselves by materijalnome, roles and relationships entails binding, since the loss of any of these things involves no loss carry that you have, but it is a loss.

Releasing attachment to people

Sometimes you do things for yourself. Take the time to follow their own interests, those that nothing and no one can take away. Do not let those "paste the" to anyone or anything except your own passion and your values.

Keep gently. This is not just about letting go of relationships - it's also about maintaining a healthy relationship. Contrary to romantic ideas, you are not the one's other half. You are Full and full. You can have someone close to your heart, but remember that if you catch it too tightly, you'll both start to choke.

Hang out with many people. If you limit yourself to one or two links, it may seem as if your whole life is reduced to them. Everyone needs people, and there are billions on the planet. Stay open to new relationships. Accept the possibility that your future holds a lot of love and if you do not stick to a few select people.

Releasing attachment from the past

Know that you can not change the past. Even if you think about it. Even if you are penalized. Even if you do not accept. It's over. The only way to ease the pain you about something that happened is that to play alone. No one but yourself can create peace in your mind.

Love rather than fear. When you hold the past, it often has to do with fear: fear that you blew your chance for happiness, or fear that such happiness will never experience. Focus on what you love and you will create happiness instead of worrying about it.

Talk calmly. How we perceive things is largely a result of how they internalize. Instead of telling you stories about the past - how many have been injured and how horrible it is - focus on the lessons we have learned. That's all you really need from the past.

Releasing attachment to results

Practice putting things to be. That does not mean you can not work on it to make a different tomorrow. It just means that you reconciled with the moment as it is, without having to worry about whether something is wrong about your life, and to move the position of acceptance.

Release the need to know. Life contains uncertainty, regardless of the strength of your intentions.Obsessive concern about what will happen tomorrow is just a waste of your time since there will always be a "tomorrow" on the horizon. There is no guarantee of how it will unfold. Just know that it depends on how well you live today.

Fill your purpose now. You do not have to have x amount of money in the bank to live a fulfilling life already. Find out what's important to you and fill the pockets of joy in it. Go to audition for local theater. Volunteer connection with animals. Whatever you like - you're doing it. Do not wait - do it now.

Releasing attachment to emotions

Understand that pain is inevitable. No matter how well you have mastered everything on this list, or a list of your own road to peace, and you still lose daljte things that are important to you and feel some level of pain. But it may not be as bad as you think. As the old saying says, pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional.

Express your feelings. Feel them, acknowledge them, express them and let the natural transform.Even if you have a need to be angry, grieve or feel frustrated - especially if you have a need for this - I save you the trouble and focus on how to work through these emotions to himself.

Write them down. Then throw them away in the trash. You will not always have the opportunity to express them to people who caused them. That does not mean that you have to swallow. Write a diary. Write a letter and then burn it. Anything that helps you to release them.

It will not always be easy. Sometimes you will certainly be tempted to mentally and physically attach to people and ideas-feeling as if it will give you a sense of control and security. You may also strongly believe that you will be happy if you continue to keep what you have. It's OK. It's human nature.

Just know that every time you have a choice of how you experience things you enjoy: a sense of possessiveness, anxiety and fear and the feeling of freedom, peace and love.

After all, the most important question, at this very moment, what would you choose?

Lori Deschene

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