Saturday, December 8, 2012

What does it mean to be happy?


Being happy is the purpose of life - at least so says the Dalai Lama. Jesus had something similar in mind when he said that he came to "you might have life and live it fully."


Unfortunately, after a long fourteen years in the field of personal development, I came to the conclusion that most people are not quite sure what happiness really means. Happiness is also often confused with self-satisfaction or pleasure. And then what happiness really means?
Whether to be happy is to have a lot of nice things - a nice house, a summer house, a car, good clothes, great vacations? Because over the past few years, many people have fallen into the trap of their luck on the grounds that the measures - and to measure their happiness by comparing things that have with those around you. Believe it or not, a client called me and told me that his wife threatened to leave him because "Their neighbors are getting better rest!" "Help her to pack up," I replied!
It seems to me that happiness is not to have a lot of nice things. Do not get me wrong - it does not preclude having many nice things, but they are not a prerequisite for it. Happiness means quality time, or how my clients say "be good" - which is a word that has special meaning to me and my family, my friends and my clients. Happiness is the inner feeling that you have that is all right with the world and your place in it. It's a feeling of longing for something - not that you do not want to continue the journey of life a wonderful adventure train - but simply that you do not need anything more now and immediately.
Happiness is a matter of moment. A major problem is that the normal mind is not a temporary thing, so a normal person, in the normal course of things, is not capable of feeling happiness. Psychology tells us that the normal subconscious mind focused on the past, especially in the childhood experiences that are etched into our subconscious and that make us who we are - or at least with what we think we are! To make matters worse, the normal conscious mind is focused on the future, looking forward to something good, wanting something that we do not have, or even normal, worrying about something you do not want that to happen. Finally, thanks to all the mental turmoil, psychological research has concluded that the normal mind is only one per cent at present. Under such conditions, it is almost impossible to be happy.
To be happy, you have to turn to the present - the only time and place where life is lived. Indeed, in those rare cases where a normal mind and really experience an absolute fortune - for example, when your child is born or when you take away the breath of an incredible sunset - research shows that in those fleeting moments of your brain to fully focus is entered, overcome with the moment . And therein lies the secret of true, lasting happiness - even during our normal everyday life. Remember, if you spend a single moment of everyday life, "unhappiness", you've wasted a precious opportunity that you will never show.
In other words, no matter what you do or where you are, you possess the ability to be happy - a free and happy mind is a mind that is open and ready for all the possibilities and the opportunities that it offers real life - right here, right now. However, you need to be present is focused and attentive mind.Such a degree is not a natural focus for adults, but children's innate. So we have learned everything we know now during development, when our minds were like sponges.
Re-learn how to focus, or plain and simple, pay attention to the reality of the present, and do not let your mind take you on a ride through the past or worry about the future. For this study you do not need any special seminars or expensive equipment - you are perfectly equipped as you are. You have five senses - you can see, feel, hear, smell and taste. As a child you are fully exploited in the sense that the world really lived. As a grown man almost never pay attention to the senses - instead, your subconscious mind decides for you in connection with what is presently going on, using what he learned during the development as a basis for decision making. Crazy!
So you can literally call. You have to deliberately start paying attention to what and whom to see, feel, smell and taste - you have to empathize and be entered in a moment, in the same way that I enjoy when you experience the natural rare moment of happiness. Once you start doing it - regularly and every day - you will not have to search for happiness - it will easily find you.
Indeed, it is easy to be happy!

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